Some people experience severe aversion to being touched. But what of everyone else? If you're frustrated in dating and wondering "What am I doing wrong? Yes, you are correct that many people are privileged due to qualities such as gender, ethnicity, and a host of other diversities and this does tip the balance of "fairness" and "equal opportunity," but the smaller point of the essay was more about the finding that "lucky happenstances" are often more likely to be experienced by those who are looking for luck. We remember being able to get up whenever we wanted; we recall not having to fret about where we threw things. You can purchase Ross' book on Amazon. I know that most people say that they are over their former loved ones.
If we want to be miserable we will be, if we want to look for solutions to an issue, we will.
Is love just a selfish act?
We also talk about our recent dates Rayna's was a surprise; Ashley's was over in record timeand play another round of Is This Weird? The implication wasn't that magical thinking was going to change anyone's life, but that self-wisdom, recognizing and capitalizing on opportunities, etc. And to open the episode, we share our latest dating "strategy" which involves zero effort. Being able to recall the moments and relationships that were the most satisfying—whether a close friendship or a romantic attachment— will help us set the bar and outline the parameters of what we need from the significant relationships in our lives. But you'll still get a laugh out of it!